Personality styles under stress: leading through the crisis
Monica Olsen, BScN BA, MHRD
Given the uncertain timeline of the COVID-19 pandemic, leaders will increasingly need to tune into what they need to remain calm and focused, so that they are in a better position to influence and calm others. As mentioned in an earlier bulletin by Dr. Paul Mohapel1 on self-compassion and resilience, this is not the time for leaders to give free rein to unhealthy behavioural manifestations: workaholic, superhero, perfectionist, and Lone Ranger. Rather, learning to notice one’s thoughts, emotions, and sensations without judgement can help overcome unhelpful habitual reactions to stress and, thoughtfully, choose different responses.
In Dealing with People You Can’t Stand2, Dr. Rick Brinkman and Dr. Rick Kirschner discuss how every behaviour is trying to fulfill a purpose or intent. People engage in behaviours based on their intent and do what they do based on what seems to be most important at the moment. As a broad frame of reference, we will discuss four general intents that determine how people will behave and their key stressor.
Behaviour changes as priorities or intents change. It is helpful for leaders to identify these intents in themselves and recognize the connection to their own behaviour in various situations. Mindfully mastering this practice makes it easier for leaders to observe and understand how these intents manifest in others and, thus, help defuse unhelpful behaviours by providing the most appropriate remedies. Top
The Insights Discovery personality assessment associates four colour energies with corresponding intents, stressors, stress signals, and remedies.
An emergency physician recently said, “We are used to dealing with unknowns, but COVID is an exercise in vulnerability and loss of control that is beyond anything we’ve ever experienced.” To help alleviate that anxiety, this ED physician maintains a calm home life and before coming into work, establishes a regular practice.
“I have the same routine each time. I eat a huge meal in case I have to skip lunch or dinner. Then, I give my husband and children a kiss before I leave. I always turn back and watch them wave to me from the window. My son makes a little heart sign with his thumbs and index fingers to remind me to be brave. After that, I can handle anything.”
In a recent interview, Dr. Brené Brown3, a research professor who has spent the past two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy, offered three pieces of advice.
To ensure that you can deal with the many uncertainties and lead others through this pandemic wilderness, you must take care of yourself first. That cannot be delegated! Here are a few powerful questions to help you identify what you need, regardless of personality, to renew your internal battery and deal more effectively with stress.
References
1. Mohapel P. Self-compassion: cultivating physician resilience during the pandemic. Can J Physician Leadersh 6(4): 154-155
2. Brinkman R, Kirschner R. Dealing with people you can’t stand: how to bring out the best in people at their worst (3rd ed.). New York: McGraw-Hill; 2012.
3. Brown B. The Current: Our adrenaline can’t “outpace” COVID-19, but Brené Brown offers 3 tips to better cope. https://www.cbc.ca/radio/thecurrent/the-current-for-april-9-2020-1.5527551our-adrenaline-can-t-outpace-covid-19-but-bren%C3%A9-brown-offers-3-tips-to-better-cope-1.5528127
4. Insights Group Ltd, 2010-2016. https://www.insights.com/ca/products/insights-discovery/
Monica Olsen, BScN, BA, MHRD, is President, Olsen and Associates Consulting; Senior Faculty, Physician Leadership Institute, Joule In., and External Educator, Facilitator, Coach, University Health Network
This article has been peer reviewed.